You certainly deserve love just as much as anyone else. If you can’t love yourself, then who can you love? While it’s wonderful to sacrifice yourself for others, you’re really important too. When you make the effort to be kind to yourself, you’re in a better position to be kind to everyone else in your life. It’s time to let go of the idea that indulging yourself occasionally is selfish.
Everyone in your life deserves your best. Put yourself in the position to provide exactly that by following my 7 top ways to love yourself more.
1. Make a list of your best qualities.
Most people can list their shortcomings without a lot of thought, but they are less aware of their best qualities. Give yourself five minutes to write down your best qualities. Ask your friends and family for help, too. With your unique talents and skills, you have a lot to offer the world and yourself.
2. Let go of your past and consider the possibilities of the future.
Were you unpopular in school? Were your parents unkind to you as a child? Did your first attempt at starting a business fail? All of that is over now. Focusing on the past can only create unhappiness when you give it your attention.
Your past does not have to influence your future. Think about what your future could hold for you if you make a few wise decisions and concentrate your effort!
3. Decide that you’ll no longer compare yourself to others.
Comparing always leads to misery. You’re either too hard or too easy on yourself, depending on the topic and the other person. A much better idea is to compare yourself now with where you want to be in the future. Resolve to focus on your progress. A little progress is easy to accomplish and leads to great progress.
4. Keep the promises you make to yourself.
Everyone in the world is a liar. Sure, you might be honest with others, but you lie continuously to yourself. You tell yourself that you’re going to stick with your diet “this time.” Or you tell yourself that you’re never going to be late to work again. Lies! All lies!
I know this sounds harsh, but after consistently lying to yourself for years, you don’t even believe yourself anymore. You know when you’re lying to yourself.
Choose to be honest with yourself from now on. Promise yourself only what you know you can deliver, and notice your happiness and self-esteem skyrocket!
5. Call a high school or college friend and reconnect.
Just because you don’t live in the same town doesn’t mean you can’t still talk in a meaningful way. Track down a few friends from the past and reconnect. If you call or Skype at least three old friends, at least one of them will be excited to hear from you. It only takes one and its so wonderful to catch up on their news!
6. Learn a new skill.
Have you always wanted to learn how to fly a plane, play the saxophone, or design a website? Why not give yourself the gift of indulging in that desire. Take the first step to learning that new skill. Today is a great day to get started.
7. Buy yourself something nice.
Is there something you’ve always wanted but have avoided purchasing? Why not indulge yourself a little? As long as you can afford it, buy yourself something for a change.
To Sum Up
Ensure that you’re satisfying your own needs as you tend to the needs of others. It is so important to do this to look after your overall mental health and happiness. Everyone is important, and that includes you, too. Give yourself the same priority you give to others in your life. Take the time to love yourself more.
To your success